Russian wedding is an interesting symbiosis of old national traditions, the trends of the Soviet time and elements of Western style. Although many couples prefer to celebrate the wedding on Western Manner (exit registration, replacement of the Tamada leading, lack of contests, harmonic, traditional redemption and meetings of bread-salt), most of the marriages adhere to classical traditions.
In ancient times, before sending a matchmaker to the house to the bride, they were carefully selected. As a rule, the svaty became a relative. The main purpose of the matchmaker is a reputable person in the eyes of others and know what to say in a particular situation. The features of weddings in Russia were that the bride with the future spouse was not familiar to the wedding, and it was from the skill of the matchmakers depended whether the wedding will be held at all.
Only on their speeches could be understood how good the groom in their characteristics and qualities. Watching always accompanied by jokes, songs, dancing.
As part of the Watch, many symbolic rites were committed, some of which are followed today.
This attribute most often brought watches from the bride. If the girl gave consent to the wedding, she cut a loaf to pieces and distributed to everyone attending, starting with parents. Loaf needed to eat up to the last piece – then the future marriage was considered successful and happy.
This attribute was used to tie the matchmakers if the girl gave consent to the wedding. Svati presented a towel as a gift from the bride’s parents of the bride.
Today, the rushnik is used on the matchmaker as a dish under the loaf. After the walling – stored until a solemn day.
There were certain dates and even days when the outcome of the matchmaker could end the most successful. These numbers treated 3, 5, 7 and 9 number of each month, as well as October 14. Especially significant was the last date, since it had a holiday of the Intercession of the Most Holy Virgin. It was impossible to win the 13th number of any month. Among the days of the week for the match, the weekend was best suited, Tuesday and Thursday.
Shata, hitting the house of the future bride, never openly declared the goal of his visit. They spoke with the owners of the house for distracted topics, and then published approached the essence. The parents of the bride took the guests welcomingly, treated beverages (their future bride was served).
At this time, the matchmaker looked at the girl, began to ask for a question about her and giving groom. If the groom received a refusal, then, as a rule, it was a very concise answer: “There was no other apple,” our product is not for sale, “” did not quote, “others.
If the results of the walling were positive, then after discussion of organizational issues, the bride gave a narrowed pledge – a handkerchief.
A piece of karabava wrapped in a handkerchief, and Swat carried him, raising up, so that everyone saw that the wedding was successfully and a wedding will take place soon.
Today, the decision about the wedding lovers take themselves. Only after that parents and other relatives learn about the upcoming event. Of course, the walling in many families is held to this day (as a certain tribute to the old traditions, parents). It was during this pre-wedding rite that the parents of the bride can better see and learn the groom.
Today, the walling is carried out in a simplified form. Svati do not suit theatrical scenes, they sing little and do not say additives. Groom, going to the house of the bride, gives all those present women with flowers. Shats bring fruit, alcoholic beverages, sweets. The bride gets from the groom and future mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
Most often this jewelry, but maybe an old family relic. Bridesmaid parents are presented in an inexpensive gift, but with meaning: Horseshoe (charm for housing), beautiful candle (for comfort and warmth in the house), photo album (for good memories) and others. As soon as the exchange of gifts and mutual greetings occurred, all those present are invited to the table, where there is a discussion of the details of the future wedding.
So that the walling does not turn into a boring evening, you need to choose the right match. The most appropriate option is talkative nature that are not burdened with constraints, complexes that may take away all.
The groom who came along with the matchs must keep silence. Sveta should shut eloquence. Having greeted all those present and informing the goal of the visit, the matchmaker can come up with a whole kaleidoscope of comic tests and trusted issues for the bride. The same tasks, carefully prepared by the genus of the bride, are waiting for the groom.
A mansion in the middle of the walling with characteristic jokes-additives is the moment of the proposal of the hand and heart. In this moment and the bridegroom, and the parents of the bride should be very serious, but sincere. Ask parents to give daughter for him the groom can at the very beginning of the meeting or at the table.
After everyone was announced about the engagement, the main wedding hassle began. Bride, along with household chores, was supposed to prepare himself and sew a wedding dress. In the deaf villages, even existed the custom of coming every day on the porch of the house, sob and draw on the fear of entry into a new life. Nowadays, such a ritual is no longer respected.
In addition, the day before the wedding was held. Today in Russia, the bachelorette party celebrates very magnificently and loudly, in the old days it was a quiet evening with sad songs.
Bridesmaid girlfriends turned to her braid, inlet satin ribbons, then broken.
It was believed that thus the bride says goodbye to the former unmarried life. The bride itself was crying and caused. Ribbons from the braid of the bride were considered endowed with their meaning: their girlfriends were disassembled and stored for happiness and early marriage.
Pre-wedding training from the bridegroom concluded in baking a huge painted puncture, decorated with flowers, figures and interesting patterns of the test. All female half of the house under the caulagheny songs was engaged in creating this culinary masterpiece before dawn. Groom on the eve of the wedding held a bachelor party. Attended this evening his relatives and friends.
Redemption of the bride
In Russia, the redemption of the bride was a very responsible case that demanded a lot of generosity. Today, the monetary component has already deposited to the background. The main goal of redemption in our days: passing all the tests, contests, hobbled with girlfriends of the bride, the bridegroom proves to everyone how well he knows and loves his future spouse. Friends on the part of the groom can always come to his aid if necessary.
After completing the redemption, the bride’s parents organize a small table for those present.
Wedding acquires a new shade after the official ceremony in the registry office. Many modern couples please themselves and guests in the hall for official ceremonies not only by the first kiss, but also the first dance (it is necessary to preliminarily agree on a specific composition).
After the official part of the guests are waiting for a photo session with young. Then guests of the holiday should be from two sides of the exit from the registry office to shower young rose petals, rice, coins or candy.
According to folk signs, this rite (depending on the selected products) gives young wealth, healthy offspring, romantic and sweet joint life. If newlyweds are truly believers, then by the customs of the Russian people on the same day they pass the rite of wedding.
After official events begin festive festivities. Usually only closest friends are involved in them.
In order for the memory of colorful photos, young attend and spend a photo session in the most picturesque corners of the city.
The bride carrying the bride through the bridge is also an integral tradition of Russian wedding. According to beliefs, young must do a similar procedure on seven bridges, then their union will be strong. But in the context of modern celebrations and the workload of the main urban highways, it is not always possible, so the tradition is observed, but the number of objects is reduced to one. There they also leave a memorable castle with the initials of the young as a symbol of a marriage fortress.
In Russia, newlyweds after marriage visited the father’s house of the groom. Mother-in-law met their bread-salt (carable), and the mother-in-law kept the icon at that time. The bride and groom had to bite part of the punishment. In the size of a hatching piece and the head of the family was determined. At the same time, the rite of blessing a new family. Today, a meeting with a punishment is increasingly taking place in the banquet hall in the presence of guests.
First of all at the wedding always pay attention to the dress of the bride. His color, in most cases, white. The bride’s dress acquires a new one, although some girls prefer to wear in the solemn day Mamino dress, wanting to inherit her happy family life. New dress – this symbol of entry into a new life, and white color is a symbol of youth and purity. That is why women who are married several times, for subsequent ceremonies wear outfits of blue or beige shades.
If in Russia, the wedding dress has always been bright red, then in modern celebrations you can see brides in white robe with bright accents or tender finish of pastel tones.
Red color today is a lot of bold and extraordinary personalities. Fata at modern weddings has become optional. It is perceived as decoration hairstyles. Replace a veil with a hat with a veil.
According to believe, in the closure of the bride must be something old. Most often it is family ornaments or element from a wedding dress Mom. This attribute is a symbol of communication between generations. Also in the outfit must be a detail taken from girlfriend. It is believed that then next to the young will always be faithful friends, ready to help at a difficult moment.
In order for the young family to reign harmony, there must be something blue in the bride: a garter, accessory, a dress element, makeup makeup.
The wedding script is built in such a way that the main place in it is occupied by congratulations. The first for this is always invited parents. Then the word is provided to relatives and friends. In order for cash envelopes to form a messy bunch, and by the end of the evening they were not lost at all, the bride itself or her girlfriend specially make a casket with a slot. Collective gifts in monetary equivalent on the day of the celebration The invoice helps the witness.
After the first toasts and snacks, guests are invited to the dance floor. By tradition, the first dance always remains for the young (if he was not in the registry office). Very fashionable today to make staged dances, for which the bride and groom are diligently engaged in the dance studio for several months. For the effect of the execution of the bride and the bridegrooms can be put on other outfits for a while.
Another traditional dance during the feast – the dance of the bride with her father. This action he blesses the daughter for a happy life in another family.
When wedding celebrations are suitable for the completion of Tamada announces the need to transfer a family hearth from parents to children. This rite is held as follows:
- All those present are cut candles+
- everyone goes to the middle of the room, get up in a circle and light candles+
- The room indoors is quenched+
- The background sounds a quiet slow music, during which Tamada talks about the meaning of this tradition+
- Parents of young on both sides light their candles and go to the center of the hall, becoming next to their children, light home the home for a new family from their candles.
At the end of the wedding, the bride mother or newly minted mother-in-law helps the girl to remove a veil. First, she must resist this, but after persuasion should agree. After that, a young husband breaks the spouse of sprues. Tamada at this time tells about the history of this custom.
In the oldest wedding gifts in the old days were:
- Living (cow, horse, piggy, chicken, ducks)+
- Set of towels without fridge+
They all had a symbolic meaning. Animals symbolized the appearance of healthy kids, towels – a smooth life, a shell – the primacy of her husband in the family.
Today, the wedding is made to give money, dishes, computer and household appliances, bedding, cutlery, audio and video equipment.
Recently, a preliminary order of gifts is common: newlyweds long before the wedding notify guests about what they would like to get.
Traditions on the second and third day of the celebration
Very rare Russian wedding celebrates one day. As a rule, the next day the day implies an unofficial situation. Celebrated the second day on the lap of nature – with kebabs, strong drinks, songs. And on the third day, the spouses can leave for a honeymoon in some hot exotic country.
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